Are you a nerd or gamer?
It’s easier to figure out if you’re a gamer: Do you like playing video games? Do you spend a lot of time playing video games?
Then you’re probably a gamer.
Figuring out if you’re a nerd is a little trickier because of how popular nerd culture has gotten. Lots of people may claim the title, but are just riding the wave of superhero movies.
So how do you know if you’re really a nerd?
Despite what many people think, being a nerd doesn’t mean you always wear glasses and play dungeons and dragons. Like everything in life, there is a dark side to really being a nerd that doesn’t get talked about very much.
When you were in school, people were happy to be on group projects with you because they knew you would do most of the work because you wanted a good grade.
You were academically advanced in at least one subject area, like reading, writing, or math, and always did well without much effort.
When you were in school, students tried to or did cheat off of your tests.
You’ve been told you’re too smart for your own good, more than once.
You get really excited about things other people think are ridiculous, but you still love them anyway (like when I got to grad school and realized that I loved statistics….and I still love statistics to this day).
You get told constantly that you’re smart, so you should be able to figure it out, and then you don’t get any help, even if you ask for it.
Your workload is high because your boss and coworkers know you can handle it, which means you work more than everyone else with little or no extra benefits, recognition, or pay.
You love learning and always end up in situations you’re learning, even if it’s not on purpose.
You are baffled by people who claim to know everything because you know that’s impossible.
You’re smart enough that you’ve had to learn to mask or hide your intelligence so that people around you aren’t mean to you or uncomfortable.
So, what exactly is life coaching?
Coaching with Gabrielle focuses on a few areas:
- Mental Health
These are important areas for personal well being, growth and development. They are frequently overlooked, or conversely, hyperfocused on to the exclusion of other areas of life.
It feels impossible to talk about health, wellness, or mental health without being bombarded with an onslaught of frequently contradictory information. For nerdy people, the overwhelming amount of research can lead you down a rabbit hole that ends with nothing changing because there is so much to sort through.
Relationships, including your relationship with yourself, are just as fraught with contradictory advice and endless suggestions. However, nerds are often incredibly hard on themselves and learning to be kind to yourself is crucial in improving relationships with loved ones, friends, and colleagues.
So how to know if coaching with Gabrielle is right for you?
- You’re tired of watching your friends pass you by when you know you can do better.
- You believe investing in yourself through self improvement is a wise use of your time and money.
- You want to feel more in control of your life, instead of being pulled from crisis to crisis.
- You want accountability for your goals so you actually reach them, instead of just thinking about how nice it would be to reach them.
- You could use some ongoing structure and support to keep you on track while you are making positive changes in your life.
- You’re tired of habits not sticking, and it’d be nice if you could get real-time support from someone who has been through it themselves.
- You’re bored, stuck, plateaued, or disengaged from most of your life and you’re in that weird gray area where things aren’t bad, but they aren’t good either.
Coaching with Gabrielle is not for you if:
- You know everything. How can I help you if you know everything?
- You aren’t really interested in changing. What’s the point then?
- You really need therapy, not coaching. This will be clear to me our first session and I can help you figure out your next steps.
- You want to do something with overnight results. Have fun with that!
How do I start for coaching with Gabrielle?
I take new clients twice a year.
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